Everyone has heard of, at some point in their life, the saying, "Just be yourself", however, the statement is very vague. What does it mean to be yourself? And more importantly, is it as easy to be yourself as it sounds? Well this website is about teaching you how to define who you are as a person, so you no longer are competing to fit in with the ever-changing trends in personality and fashion etc. So how do you "just be yourself"?
Firstly, find who you are by your own definition, and form a description based on your own terms. Be yourself, everyone else is already taken. As funny as this statement sounds, it's the honest truth. Though it is hard to be yourself if you yourself don't know, understand, and accept yourself for who you are first. Take into consideration your values, what you like and don't like to do and live by the results. Make sure that the defining you do is based on your own terms and is something you feel absolutely comfortable with. You may feel somewhat self-conscious at first, but in time, if you surround yourself with people having your values and your traits, you will begin to feel much more comfortable living in your own body.
Not everyone is going to like you and not everyone is going to dislike you either. It's nearly impossible to be yourself when you're constantly wondering what other people think of you. This also shows you are not happy and content with yourself which presents a big problem. To be yourself, you have to let go of these concerns about what other people think and just be you. You need to take others into consideration obviously, but don't take their consideration of you so personally. Once you begin changing yourself to please others, you open the door for an entirely different group of people to dislike you, and you’re stuck living up to other people’s expectations of you, instead of your own expectations. Start listening to your inner confidence.
This doesn't mean that no one's opinion in life matters. You just need to base your decision on what group of people have the most negative impact on you as an individual, when it comes to their opinions of you. People who are supportive of your decision to start living as you see fit, instead of how others expect you to live, are the type of people you should be most concerned about when it involves the opinions of others.
A few other necessary things that you need to do during the process of defining yourself are to be honest and open, identify and learn to live with your imperfections, stop worrying about every little thing when it comes to social situations, treat others the same way that you yourself wish to be treated, create and freely express your own individual personality, sense of style, mannerism etc. and you need to learn to stop comparing yourself to others, as you will never be happy with yourself if you use this approach.
You will find, in time, that by defining yourself as an individual and expressing the individual you've defined, you will become a much happier person in your everyday living experiences. At first, people may look at you differently because you aren't what they are accustomed too, but as long as you do not let it bother you, and just accept you for who you are, those same people will grow to love you simply for you being yourself.